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Archive for July, 2009
Thursday, July 23rd, 2009
Twenty years ago, if someone remained single into their 50s, they were doomed to live a life of sexual abstinence, and their life long journey of finding ‘the one’ was over. It meant your family life was now confined to traditional catch ups with your brother or sisters families for birthdays and Christmas, and your relatives couldn’t help but have pity on you.
Like I said, that was twenty years ago, so be happy that you are part of a generation where 50 is the new 30. Today, middle aged singles are rarely sitting at home day after day counting down their last years.
As we start to get on in age, our desire to live a romantic and sexually fulfilled life is as strong as ever.
If you are 50, married or unmarried, there are numerous reasons to enjoy this stage of your life. Thing is, why must you act your age? By the time your reach this mile stone, your kids (if you have any) are usually off your hands, and suddenly, you are back to the same position as when you were 20-30 years younger, which meant fun and freedom. Make the most of your singles status, don’t become one of those people who dwell on the ‘what if’ or ‘if only’ factors.
The most important aspect for anyone of any age is to maintain good health, if you have this on your side you have the world at your feet. So c’mon, throw some caution to the wind and take action. Ever heard this saying? You can lead a horse to water, but you cant make it drink. Most middle aged singles fall right into this category. Where to start…
Join an online dating site. Online dating for seniors is a multi million dollar industry. Participate in singles chat rooms, most of the online dating sites will have these features and will offer online chat for all different age groups. You don’t need to settle down with the first person you meet online, maybe you need to sow your wild oats, 20 year olds are doing it, and there’s nothing stopping you. Try dating a younger man or woman, your single remember. Many online dating sites also host regular offline singles functions for every age group, and then there are singles holidays you can investigate.
New friends. Dating again in your 50s means you will also meet new friends. When first dates don’t turn romantic, you are more likely to remain friends than younger daters. And good friends are always valuable at any stage of life.
Body image. Forget it! You don’t need to be hitting the gym 6 days a week, scale back to some moderate exercise – relax. Take up tennis or dancing instead, its fun, great exercise and very social.
Where all doing it! Dating that is. The latest Census data released by the American Bureau of statistics claims that 40% of people aged between 55 and 77 are single, representing millions of singles who are also on the look out for romance.
Experience wins every time. With two daters in their 50s merging 60 – 70 years of sexual experience, this is definitely what we call a win-win situation. And forget about being restricted to dating on a tight budget like you used to when you were 25. Dating in your 50s will see you taking regular weekends away to the winery, B&Bs, and will allow you to take short or long holidays together now that you have less budget constraints.
Just because you have turned 50 and are single should not mean you hide at home in front of the TV relying on your home creature comforts to pass time. Put yourself out there and doors will start to open up again. This fundamental piece of advice is crucial for any individual who is looking to further themselves whether it be for romance, business, sport, or absolutely anything you want to achieve in life. No-one is going to come knocking on your door and give you the answer.
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Wednesday, July 22nd, 2009
As the big day draws closer, your anxiety levels increase. Thing is, don’t just do nothing in the lead up to the wedding, instead, do some home work on how to work a wedding as a single person. Weddings are a golden opportunity for a single person to meet new people and socialize.
Make it a night to impress, turn up looking your very best, spend the day leading up to the night pampering yourself, book in for a massage, or hit the gym so you turn up feeling refreshed and confident. Pull out your best cocktail dress or suit and make a stunning appearance.
Apart from turning up to the wedding by yourself, there is the reception afterwards which can be even more frightening as a single person. The last thing you want to be doing is sitting around looking nervous clutching your glass of champagne while the other couples are soaking up the atmosphere on the dance floor.
Here is what to do. Get to know some of the other guests before the wedding. Talk to the bride or groom about an invite to the hens or bucks night. Find out who the other singles are that will be attending and insist on being at that table. Its not all bad being single at a wedding, many new romances are forged, chances are you could end up dating one of the other guests, its the perfect environment for the singles to get to know each other.
After dinner and speeches when the dance floor starts to fill up with couples, you will suddenly feel deserted, stay calm and gather your confidence and mingle with the other guests that are also there alone. What ever you do, don’t sit around without trying to engage in some conversation, step outside for a few moments to gather your thoughts, you will probably see other guests outside milling around for you to chat to.
Don’t look at the night as something to be afraid of, this is a great opportunity to meet new friends. Every wedding has a component of singles attending, charge your glass, put on the charm and ask that single guy or girl sitting at your table for a dance. It could be the night you start dating the guy or girl of your dreams.
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Tuesday, July 21st, 2009
The world is full of attractive people that we come into contact with everyday. Whether you meet a cute sales assistant at the record store, a charming guy at the supermarket, more than likely it will be the last time you see them, or perhaps on the odd occasion when you visit that store. Most people wont think too much of a situation if you meet someone and sense alittle mutual attraction, its normal and lets face it, it does happen now and then.
So what about a similar scenario where you work. Say you go for a job interview and you happen to partake in a little innocent flirting and friendly conversation with the receptionist whilst you are waiting to be called into your job interview. You sense alittle chemistry going on but know that realistically you don’t really have the opportunity to follow anything up given the environment you are in.
A few days later you receive notification that your job application has been successful and the pretty receptionist you met before your job interview is going to be your personal assistant. There is still the chance that once you get to know her alittle better there may well be no chemical connection. But if there is, you can promise yourself your new job title will have its share of distractions.
If you are single at the time and become romantically involved with her, what happens if the relationship goes bad, how do you carry on working together. There are common stories that come out of work places that involve rumors about sexual acts or sexual dysfunction regarding office dating affairs that can change the corporate environment and productivity of a once thriving department. It is not uncommon for work colleagues to side with one another causing untold tension at the office.
If one or both of you are married and realize there is potential for a chemical build up, we strongly recommend you find some inner strength and engage your brain before your….you know what.
A leading U.K women’s magazine claims that office affairs are the biggest single cause of infidelity. Its a tricky dilemma working with someone you share a mutual attraction with. If you are in a relationship outside work, its easy to confide in your work friend about your personal problems, and this is the point where many people cross the line. A good rule to follow is to never combine your work and personal life. Work is work, personal is personal.
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Monday, July 20th, 2009
For many years you have been used to being a wife and mother, among the many other roles that have contributed to the life you have built. There will be mutual friendships you and your husband will have formed that have become an integral part of your social network. Many traditions go along with having a family such as your immediate family birthdays and anniversaries, get togethers for you and your husbands relatives such as Christmas, Easter, more birthdays and of course the in laws commitments.
There are school commitments for the kids like parent teacher night, sports carnivals, dropping your kids off and picking them up from their friends house and helping them with their home work. With all the difficult commitments comes a satisfying trade off whereby you get to see your beautiful children growing up slowly day by day, and becoming strategically involved in watching them develop into young citizens of the world. You live your life for your family. So what happens when all this routine is simply, gone!
Breaking up with your husband after years of marriage will certainly see you lose your identity for a period of time. You are not used to living your life based around you, your family became your whole priority. In this initial period of tragedy, your friends and perhaps a relationships counselor will be your best asset.
You will need to get used to a new routine with your ex to be able to maintain your children’s well being. Soon your focus will start turning back to yourself with the amount of spare time you now have on your hands. The question of dating again will also start to ring loudly, but how on earth do you train yourself to be a confident single woman again. It may well have been 10 or 20 years since this question was raised, and with a few more years under your belt this time, is it even possible or realistic to consider such a thing?
Firstly, you must come to terms with your situation and allow time for this to happen. Take small but decisive steps to work on your self esteem and image. Take the fight head on, and ever so slowly you will come out on top. As far as meeting Mr. Right, you should know that there are thousands of different scenarios that attribute to couples breaking up. Whilst you feel like you are the only person that understands what you are going through, you could not be further from the truth.
Try using the internet and online chat rooms to find other male singles to chat to. Online dating sites are a fantastic way to take small steps in finding a new partner. And where else can you do this from the security and comfort of your own home.
The days of going to a club, or relying on your friends to meet singles are no longer an option for us middle aged folk. Online dating sites are now an integral part of the singles and dating scene, this concept of matchmaking may seem strange to you, but think of it as a whole generation of technology that you have missed out on, so give it ago and have some fun!
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Sunday, July 19th, 2009
Whether your hot or not, we are all sexually charged beasts and appreciate attention from the opposite sex. Good looking women you will see out at the local singles bars are just the same on the inside as women less attractive than them. Sex and romance can turn our lives from misery to bliss in an instant so the next time you see an opportunity to strike up a conversation with a hot woman, just remember, she loves sex and romance just as much as you do.
Summer is a great time to meet single women. Big international cities and coastal sea side villages is where the ladies are likely to be frequenting. Beautiful beach side suburbs like Bondi Beach in Sydney Australia sees an array of hot women from all over the world converge on this spectacular holiday destination, and summer is when it all happens.
A good climate is attributed to more sexual activity, with many people including locals and tourists getting out and enjoying themselves, we are generally happier in summer than in the colder months of the year. So now that you have established the best environment regarding when and where to start meeting and dating gorgeous women, you need to know the facts. And the fact is, that hot girl from Brazil sitting at a bar in Australia in the middle of Summer, is clearly not a local and is probably backpacking around Australia and is up for for some fun. Do you honestly think she is sitting at that bar by herself, on holidays, and not wanting to meet anyone or socialize? She does, absolutely!
No one is going to hold your hand and do it for you, but just remember, when you are debating whether to make your move, try to consider that we are all human with the same needs and wants, regardless of appearance.
Where most men fail is the hesitation factor, if you spot an opportunity, you have around 15 seconds to start something and make an impression. 90% of men will hesitate, and they are not one of those men you see in the street grinning from ear to ear as mentioned earlier.
Okay, so you’ve broken the ice and are chatting to her, you now have around 4 minutes to say something funny or interesting otherwise she will start to become bored and feel a little uneasy if the conversation doesn’t start building a little chemistry.
Once you have gained her interest and the conversation is funny and flowing easily, you have every reason to go the next step and casually ask her to meet up later for a drink or coffee, in which case you ask for her phone number. By now you should be feeling confident and a sense of achievement that you will be dating someone you never thought possible, and hopefully you too will be grinning from ear to ear in a few days.
For more tips on picking up hot women, visit some singles online dating sites and read up on the advice and stories other singles have posted. While you are there check out some of the singles profiles, I too was shocked at the high standard of women that are joining online dating sites these days.
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