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Archive for September, 2009
Saturday, September 26th, 2009
Should a girl ask a guy out for a date? This is a tricky question indeed. Some guys love it, others prefer to do the chasing. And some guys may think it’s an invitation for more than just lunch or dinner…we think you know what we mean…
Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, authors of the best-selling book The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, think the guy should do all the chasing.
In an interview by Amy Rachel Gerwitz on her website, the authors offer this old-fashioned piece of advice: “Regrettably, we state that going after men doesn’t work! Men and women are biologically dissimilar period! Men thrive on challenges (sky diving, etc.) Women love to be protected and feel secure within routine. Thus, the man should establish the first point of contact for her to genuinely feel loved and protected. When a woman engages a man as the first point of contact, he will ultimately miss out on the opportunity of “getting the girl, or he will question the lack of challenge and end up losing interest”.
Although we like to say there really are no rules in dating beyond being courteous, polite and having good manners, there’s quite a lot of truth in Fein’s and Schneider’s take on whether a girl should ask a guy out first.
Whilst biology plays a part technically, reality tells a very different story.There is no bigger confidence boost a guy can receive than having a women go out of her way to claim him as her prize.This also gives women a sense of liberation by openly bucking this so called tradition.
A recent survey published by Hookmeup Online, tells of a growing number of single females who use dating websites and who commonly initiate contact with male members. A recent data centre report based on 238 online dating female members claim that 62% of these women fired of seductive or flirtatious emails to men, initiating the first move.
Evidently, the majority of men would like to be asked out by her. Asking out a girl for the first time rates as one of the most stressful components in a young mans life, because when she initiates things, it takes the pressure off. Subsequently, the man does not have to face the anxiousness associated with possible rejection.
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Monday, September 21st, 2009
Unless you’ve been living under a rock or on a remote island, you will know that online dating has become second nature and a choice by instinct for busy and smart singles.
We’ve all heard of the horror stories shared by the media and online dating reviews about liaisons gone wrong with online dating. Some pretty common bad experiences we sometimes hear about include people mis-representing themselves when comparing their real life appearance to their online dating profile. We hear stories about online daters meeting up only to discover their picture doesn’t match them in person, or their profile picture is 10 years old, we even hear about cheeky online singles posting photos on their dating profile of someone else!
Ever heard how one bad apple can spoil the whole batch? With online dating, we don’t hear enough about the thousands of successful outcomes experienced by technologically savvy singles!
In America alone, there is an average of 3 million marriages each year, with online dating accounting for an average of 360,000 of these marriages which is basically 10% of all marriages in America each and every year. So to those people who are inclined to knock online dating sites, you can hardly argue with this statistic. Then you need to factor in the de-facto relationships and casual relationships discovered through online dating, and we are realistically talking about over 1 million new relationships each year in America thanks to online dating.
And who could argue or find fault with the concept of online dating – the facts speak for themselves. If you know how to pick a non-genuine online dater, and have an eye for the real deal, the internet has an array of free online dating sites with real people. A recent media report from Australia claims that online dating usage is up more than 200% compared to last year (2008). And unlike many so called free offers we see around these days by marketing companies, a select number of free online dating sites are ad-funded and have no need to charge member subscriptions, so they really do offer the lot for free – free to browse – free to join – free to contact – free to chat.
Even though we can date for free online, some online singles prefer to stick with the tried and trusted established online dating sites, and are prepared to pay for their membership, which is fair enough, sometimes it’s better to stick to what you know and trust especially when it comes to finding someone to share your life with.
Match.com is the worlds largest online dating site and charge their members a subscription to use their dating service which proves that many singles are first and foremost selecting their choice of dating service by reputation over cost.
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Thursday, September 17th, 2009
This is one of the hottest tips you will ever come across… especially if you are amongst one of the millions of people in search of better sex and a healthier lifestyle!
A better sex life and good health rates as two of the most important priorities for both singles and couples according to a member survey recently published by The Better Health and Sex Guide.
It seems that such priorities are so highly sort after, yet so elusive for many citizens. And given that good health and sex can be sort as some of life’s great freebies, it seems ironic that a good sex life and a healthy lifestyle seems so unobtainable for many… Try combining them both and watch the results…
If you are not interested or simply ignore the daily tips and tricks splashed across our televisions, magazines and newspapers regarding better health and diet habits, perhaps this will finally send you the right message about including dark green leafy vegetables and fiber into your diet.
Given that our plumbing links up, whenever we eat something that is heart smart, it in turn benefits our sexual health. Another tip from The Better Health and Sex Guide claims that cardiovascular health is a great combination for sexual health as both components factor highly in healthy blood flow. Anything containing fruit, washed vegetables, and trim meat is considered beneficial for cardiovascular health.
One of the core reasons a healthy diet and regular exercise can be attributed to better sex, and sex more often, is simply because we gain a feeling of self worth, achievement and our confidence grows when we feel good about ourselves. Online dating webmaster Matt Fuller tells us that out of 384 respondents from his singles questionnaire, 126 of those profess to be routinely involved in healthy lifestyle habits with 73% of that group claiming to be more than satisfied with their sex lives.
Put plainly, when something promotes our entire body health, this enhances premium performance in bed. A diet high in vegetables and minerals can double the average persons energy levels within eight weeks and having untold positive results on all aspects of ones life ranging from sex, performance at work, maintaining and building on new relationships both socially and professionally.
Whilst this article is not primarily targeted towards general health (rather sex and dating), getting these foundations in order will set you up for more success in the dating and sex scene – so listen up! When compared to many other advanced machines, our bodies will perform at tip top form just like a well oiled and well maintained sports car. So keeping our arteries clear allows good blood flow to the heart, and the power of the blood flow to our genitals intensifies sexual arousal and also allows men to have longer harder erections – now are you starting to see the connection between diet/exercise and sex?
Apart from causing a stroke or heart attack, blocked arteries and weak blood flow deliver blood at a slower rate than well maintained arteries diminishing sexual appetite for men and women.
Tags: Fitness, health
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Friday, September 11th, 2009
In the real world, first impressions count. And in the cyberworld of online dating, it’s your online profile that will make that vital first impression.
A picture speaks a thousand words, so your photo is of utmost importance. In a bid to stay anonymous, some singles don’t post their real photos. Others are shy or feel they’re not photogenic. But not revealing how you look sends out a subliminal message to other singles – it may suggest that you have something to hide or have a lack of confidence.
Profiles with photos on dating websites do better than those without – it’s a scientific fact. You don’t want a glamour photo – you want one where you look as natural as possible. So look your best without going overboard in the glamour strakes, and avoid pictures where it looks like an obvious pose.
A trustworthy friend can help you choose the right picture if you’re unsure. And don’t be afraid to put several photos of yourself online if you can. Research by Yahoo! has revealed that dating profiles with photos get fives times more replies than ones without, and those with more than one photo can get up to seven times as many responses. And what’s more, five photos increase the response rate by a whopping nine times! The research also showed that women are especially responsive to profiles with photos.
Research at match.com is even more exciting, although it differs somewhat from Yahoo!’s conclusions. Match.com says that “men are 14 times more likely to look at a female profile with a photo, and women are 8.5 times more likely.”
Whatever the case, there no understating the value of a photo in your profile. For singles with kids and pets, putting the child or fur-kid in the picture speaks volumes of who you are and what’s important to you. If you’re the outdoors type, a photo showing you in the wilderness will help attract people who are like-minded.
Close-ups work best in your post for online dating sites – and please, resist the temptation to put it through Photoshop…or to use a photo of yourself than more than, say, 12 months old.
Prospective dates will be responding to what he or she sees in the profile, so it makes sense on every level to present yourself as you are today. If you’re a bald man, don’t wear a hat in your photo. Show yourself in all your bald glory – women appreciate honesty above all else, and most women won’t care if your bald (and if they do, they’re too superficial for you anyway).
Choose a photo or photos of yourself smiling – it will create a better impression and chances are we’ll be less “posed” and natural when were smiling. Choosing a photo can be a headache for a lot of online singles when first venturing into the world of internet dating . Take your time with it and, most of all, feel confident about your choice. Use your gut instinct.
Tags: dating sites, Online Dating, profiles
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Saturday, September 5th, 2009
We’ve all been there – the disastrous date. Dating disasters come in all flavors – from spilling your meal all over your date, to saying something you shouldn’t, to running into (or blabbering about) your ex, to making a fool of yourself because you’ve had too much to drink.
Dating disasters can be sorted into two main groups. The “Help, I’m on a bad date and I got to get out of here” category, and the “I really like this person, but this is NOT going well” department. Take a look at some of the dating disasters that can occur during, before or after the date – and hope it never happens to you!
Car accident.
Breaking down on the way to pick up your date is one thing, but having a car crash and sustaining an injury would tell many people that you and your date simply were never meant to be together and that fate has stepped in.
A third person.
An unexpected friend of your date turning up is pretty hard to take. If you have met your date on one of the free dating websites or via singles chat rooms, then this situation is pretty common for security reasons – but it still doesn’t make it any easier if you weren’t expecting it, a chaperone was never part of the plan.
Mixing up the time or date.
Oops! If you’re trying to make a good impression and accidently stand your date up, you need to come up with a plan B, and pretty quickly. Hopefully, if they have a good sense of humor you will avoid having the door slammed in your face next time you see them.
Fashion suicide.
Turning up in unsuitable clothing starts the date off on the wrong note. In this circumstance you will feel paranoid and out of place, concerned that people are talking about you. Don’t over dress for a meal at the local Tavern, and don’t turn up at a wedding in jeans and a crushed, non-ironed shirt.
Their other half.
You have every reason the think your date is un-mistakenly single, but the tide turns decisively when you and your date are confronted by an angry woman claiming to be his wife. Ouch!
Menu fiasco.
Before you make dinner reservations, have the commonsense to establish whether your date has any diet restrictions. If you have big intentions of taking her to your favorite steakhouse, when she announces to you that she’s a vegetarian, it may well throw a spanner in the works. Also brush up on your table manners, and there is nothing as off putting as someone who gets excessively drunk.
Be careful what you criticize.
If you are too quick to judge something, you are likely to offend your date. Keep your religious and political beliefs to yourself for the time being and avoid making sweeping comments until you get to know a bit more about the person.
Tags: Dating, dating guide, Dating Tips, First Date
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