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Preparing for a Date

Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

Advice is hard enough to ask for, especially if one’s pride is involved or if one’s feelings are hurt by the advice or advisor. Dating advice is no different but it is easier to take if one seeks it out instead of it being forced upon them by well meaning family members or friends, especially when it is not their business anyway. No one wants a mother like “Marie” on Everybody Loves Raymond gathering their ex lovers and trying to fix all their faults by discussing their problems with the ex lovers, then giving them advice, like she did to “Robert” in the television show. Perhaps that is why reading articles, books, and magazines on the subject is a more popular choice than discussions with the likes of “Marie”.

Some well given advice will follow, so if advice is not what the reader is looking for, feel free to move on. The best piece of advice is to trust your instincts. If something does not feel right, either about the other person or the place, get out as soon as possible. Instincts rarely are wrong, considering they are what have saved countless lives when paid attention to, so trust them.
 
The dater should be very committed to the idea of dating. Going on a ‘pity’ or ‘mercy’ date is not committing one’s self to the idea of finding a potential match. Always try to make the outside appearance reflect the beauty of the inside. Wear a new outfit, get a make over, or try a new hairstyle. It will be a big confidence booster and will also double as a conversation piece, if a compliment is made.
Be prepared with a plan for the date and a time frame for roommates, parents, or friends to check and make certain the dater is home safely. If there are deviations from the plan, be certain to alert the people at home who await the dater, incase something happens along the way. Having a well thought out plan for the date shows the people involved that the date planner cares enough to have made reservations and thought ahead.
 
Have a positive attitude and a positive support group. This will aid in keeping a date positive, even when it seems dismal. It will also help the dater look past a small annoyance and see the wonderful person behind the nerves. Do not expect to find Mr. or Ms. Right on the first match or date. Keeping one’s head and heart clear of fairytales will allow the dater to get to know each match well and decide if they are the potential match for them.

In order to date, one needs to take that first risk and put themselves out in the dating game. The right person will not just come knocking on the front door of one’s home with a wedding ring and a proposal, so get out there and try. The more one tries the more chances one has to finding a lasting relationship. When needed, take breaks from the dating scene. If it becomes a bother or a chore, stop for a while. Go out with friends or spend a quiet night at home with a good book or movie and candy. Dating should be fun, not a second job.

7 Tips for Choosing a Dating Site

Thursday, March 11th, 2010

In this day and age, everything is online, it seems. From buying groceries to education, one never has to leave the house anymore. With just a click, anything can be seen, bought, or traded. The same can be said for dating. It seems to be an ever popular service for people who are just too busy to find a date the old fashioned way or for those who are shy or have a difficult time being outgoing enough to risk speaking to someone. These dating sites range from being a free site which encompasses everything and everyone to very specific interest sites to costly dating sites. How does the customer decide which site is right for them? Keep reading to following advice.

There are seven things to consider when choosing to use a dating site:

The first, obviously, is the price. If money is a problem, the free sites should offer a reasonable possibility. If money is not a problem, then any site is available to the customer. Be wary of schemes which want a large down payment up front, though. Be certain to investigate the site and its customers and claims before handing over any amount of money.

The second item to consider is the site’s features. Are they easy to use and are explained well enough for the customer to use them without technical support? Or does the customer need a PHD in computer technology to complete their profile, never mind trying to meet someone with mutual interests?

Third, what kind of system does the site use to match profiles of the customers to other members? Does the information on the site explain how the profiles are matched, or is it left to chance, like the luck of the draw when pulling profiles out of a hat to match together? Is there a contingency plan if the customer goes for weeks or months without a match?

Fourth, what chat and IM capabilities does the site have? Are they regulated for appropriateness in language and content or can any chump jump into a conversation between two matched members and make them wonder why they signed up in the first place?

Fifth, are there chances for a real life mixer where one can meet potential matches in a group setting without the pressure of a date? If so, how often are these activities? Is the guest list strictly for members only or can a nervous single lady bring her married best friend along for moral support (and possible buffer if the matches are not so much matches as they are monsters)?

Sixth, is the privacy policy spelled out clearly or is it written in legalize so that only a lawyer, or a lawyer’s match, can understand what is being said?

Finally, how does the site advise its members to stay safe? What are their tips on safety for the first date and beyond? If they do not have anything like this, perhaps the customer should look into using a different site with a better safety policy. Remember, communicating is a choice not a requirement. If a potential match begins to make the customer feel uncomfortable or unsafe, block and report them and move on. That is the best part of these sites, breaking up is as easy and pushing the delete button.

Whats Attracts a Beautiful Women?

Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010

We give you the low down on one of the greatest mysteries in the dating scene – ugly men dating beautiful women. Here is your chance to get a sneak peek into the minds of men and women on this touchy topic.

The evidence of odd couples is everywhere – she is glamorous and he looks like he needs a major make over. We see these odd match ups everywhere we go, and if you’re like me and like to socialize on the weekends, these stunning/ugly hook ups are everywhere you look.

Just how true is the theory of good looking women being with ugly men in the name of ‘money’ Whilst seemingly it can often appear like “why else would she be with him” however there are other varying factors that bring together the beauty and the beast. Just how much influence does money have on a gorgeous woman to be with an unattractive man?

If you are not blessed with the best physical genetics, you need not miss out on dating beautiful women. Men are too quickly drawn into thinking that it’s all about looks and muscles. Given the choice, she would rather be with a man who is interesting, funny and confident as opposed to being with someone simply because he looks good – just ask any girl!

As with many things in life, we get stuck into thinking the same way about certain issues and topics that restrict our real potentials. By opening our minds and allowing the thought that anyone can date a beautiful woman will in fact see you achieve this very wish. One of the most wise pieces of information my dear old Dad gave me was to never assume anything about anyone, every person has their own set of rules and vices because no one is perfect, and that includes beautiful women.

The internet has countless examples of single women who are stunning and looking for relationships. It’s no secret that a pretty woman can go into any bar and walk back out with almost any guy she chooses. So why are there so many stunning women joining online dating sites? It’s because deep down they are just like any ordinary person seeking real chemistry and a deep connection which is something that looks alone does not offer.

Women find the most unusual traits in men attractive. It’s sometimes the smallest things that us men would have never considered. If you are not blessed with male model looks, work on your self confidence and you too can be one of those ugly guys walking down the street arm in arm with a babe :)

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