There are special times where you get a quick weekend escape from the hustle of our everyday lives but those happen a couple times a year. Anniversary, Valentine’s Day and a Birthday (maybe) aren’t enough to keep the spark alive before going back to the norm. Saying you love one another when you greet or on the way out of the door is nice but what if you are looking for something outside of the box to do. Something different to be romantic again and spice things up in your life.
First off, it’s not your fault for getting into the everyday rut of work, kids, errands and well life. Being grown and responsible can really take away some of the passion that once erupted from the relationship volcano you once experienced. Over the years the butterflies and that passionate feeling started to fade away because there were so many other mind occupying daily tasks that arose over time. Of course you still love each other but the expression of love may have changed and you want it back.
The solution: If you have a mobile phone with text messaging the answer is at your fingertips all the time. The best part is sending a text love message takes seconds the impact will last exponentially longer as the two of you engage in re-awakening a sleeping passion.
1.Don’t make this complicated. The first thing you do is make a short list of some of the reasons you were first attracted to your wife when you started dating. It can be anything relevant to the two of you and something only the two of you can share. It can be how pretty you think she is, the way she cooks, her dancing (good or bad), her humor, anything that made you notice her and got your attention. Have fun with this and keep it relaxed and light. Doing this should put a smile on your face anyhow just going down memory lane.
2.Once you’ve done that text her a simple luring question to get her attention that she should reply to. Here’s an example:
you: “guess what babe…?”
her: what?
you: “You know, one of the top 5 reasons I fell in love with you was because of how funny you are. You really crack me up sometimes! Hope you’re having a good day.”
She may reply with a thanks or she may not reply at all. Either way it doesn’t matter. Don’t get caught up in her response. You delivered the sweet message and it will stay on her mind.
This is just the start to a new way both of you will communicate. As time goes on the text should be more detailed and go from the and childlike to more intimate and sexual. Women need to feel emotionally connected to want sex and men need sex to feel emotionally connected. You have to speak her language before she will speak to you in yours. But if you do this correctly she will speak it!
One of the main goals is to use the normalcy in your lives and create something fun and special. The text love message you send will eventually become a private fantasy world that the two of you can escape to whenever you are apart and sometimes even when sitting in the same room. Stay tuned for that fun game.
Spicing things up can be easy and fun if you know what to do. Art, simple and quick love message text is an easy and fun way to bring a lost passion back into your relationship.