Some of us have been there and some of us have seen worse. First date disasters come in all sizes and shapes. Some are not our fault, really. Those disasters more often than not stem from our own mistakes or unpreparedness and could have usually been avoided.

For those who encounter the “who the heck is this person, I gotta get out of here” category, the simple solution is to get out. Before the date, have a friend or sibling on standby with instructions to call you when you text to get out. That way, you can fake an ‘emergency’ and get out pronto. If you’re not into this kind of agreement, you can always tell your date straight to his face that this was all a bad mistake – but hey, most of us take the easy way out, so make sure you have a plan B ready, and a plan C for that matter.

For those who encounter the “I’m being a jerk but, my date is really nice” category, there are just some things unavoidable like running into your ex in the same restaurant. But, when you spill your drink all over your date or comment negatively on her dress, you are courting real disaster.

Try avoiding or being prepared for the following:

One of the most tragic first date disasters one could be so unfortunate to experience is to become involved in a motor car accident, especially if it’s your car. Imagine being stuck in such a predicament? Especially if you’ve already decided you can’t stand your date’s company. On the flip side, if you’re dead keen on her, she’ll have no choice but to offer you her sympathy – the strangest things bring people together!

When your date decides to bring a friend or family member to accompany her, this is completely normal, well not completely, but you have to deal with it. It’s for safety reasons since she doesn’t know you that well. This type of scenario is pretty common for first dates resulting from online dating sites hook ups – just to make sure you’re not an axe murder or serial stalker. Chaperones may be the thing of the past but, it’s not when the issue is safety.

The dumbest thing you can ever do is to forget the time and date of your agreed meeting and your date gets stood up. Seldom does a woman forgive this kind of thing. It smacks of carelessness on your part and reflects who you really are. For a great first date, you’ll need to be smart, sharp and on the ball!

Clothes make the first impression count, and a cute smile of course. But have a bit of common sense and pay high detail to your presentation and of course, hygiene. Imagine greeting your date smelling like a dirty sock – “it’s pretty simple guys, no rocket science needed here!”

When you and your date are confronted by an angry wife, and the “cheaters” film crew, the question is why didn’t you research the guy’s background? Free online dating sites have plenty of snakes in the grass, so do a little research on the guy before agreeing to meet in person. Do a simple check on his Facebook page to see if “things” add up.

And before you invite your date to any restaurant or coffee shop, do take the time to ask if she has any special dietary preferences. Do take time to polish up on your table manners – yes, these things definitely matter! And if you both decide to consume liquor, please do hold your own because nothing turns off a date like an excessive drunk.

Be careful what you talk about and steer clear of politics and religion. Avoid making sweeping comments and don’t be judgmental.

Other than that, the ball’s in your court, back to you.

It’s quite common for people to stumble on a first date when the conversation goes flat and you simply cannot find the right words to keep the conversation flowing. If you’ve finally worked up the courage to ask someone out, make sure you back it up with a strong performance when the big night finally arrives.

The best way to a girls heart is to offer praise and compliments that are totally unique about her and avoid typical clichés – most girls have heard all the stereotypical compliments before and if you’re to stand out from the other guys she has dated, you’ll need to dig a little deeper and try to connect on a more exclusive level.

To do this, search for subtle clues, for instance, her brand-new French manicure pleading for recognition, or her stunning hairdo. Based on her presentation you’ll have a pretty good indication about how important the night out with you is, furthermore, you’ll have various custom made topics to chat about. “Brilliant, that’s an exceptional collection of snow globes.”

Get to the point and be specific. Flattery that is wide-beamed with no distinct target is not going to generate the affect that’s required. This woman is seeking a categorical compliment that will leave absolutely nothing to the imagination. Instead of just acknowledging her “attractive face,” select one breathtaking element, such as her lips, shoulders or slender neck.

Most stunning and successful women are looking beyond sleazy nightclubs and bars to find Mr. Right. Many single women want alternatives where they can be matched with single men based on compatibility and interests. Online dating sites and social networking websites are attracting serious singles who are looking for more than just cheap thrills.

Precisely the same principals apply on the web. Her singles dating profile provides vital information allowing you to interact as needed. Make sure you compliment her hobbies, interests and aspirations along with her appearance.

Refrain from cheap flattery “You have got awesome legs” this just sounds sleazy and very common. Alternatively, you’ll find it’s those unheard of responses and observations showcasing far more intelligent features (e.g. Delicate telephone voice along with paparazzi-deserving splendour) which resonate far more abundantly. Eg:

“That shade truly does match you.” This particular comment could work on several levels. Your encouragement highlights how you recognize the value of her choice and style as well as shows that you as well have a very clever eye for detail.

“Your studio is amazingly hip and wonderfully ornamented did you have a stylist do the layout? You do have a wonderful eye for detail”. Virtually anyone who has designated time and energy in order to rejuvenate their residence with d’art accessories or perhaps contrastive special pillows savours such type of honour.

By skilfully stroking her vanity you instantaneously are more desirable in her eyes.