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Get Sexy with Food

Wednesday, December 9th, 2009

The sexual nature of food is something that goes unnoticed by most of us. Throughout history, sex and food have a long association. A meal prepared with love and romance in mind can be capable of creating magic.

Is there a better way to set the scene for romance than to prepare a night to remember with your date or lover by indulging in rich yummy food, good wine and a table for two in a romantic setting?

The most beneficial way to create a perfect ambience and to introduce food to stimulate the mood is to ensure the table is prepared with romance and love in mind. The best chefs are often quoted by commenting on how great food is when created with love.

If you are dating someone to make a special impression, charm them with sultry foods and flavours they will relish. Use variations by arranging different textures and tastes. Finger foods are a sexy inclusion which can be swapped and fed to each other.

Indulging in sexy food in an out door environment such as a picnic at a secluded location can enhance your sensual experience. After you’re done with lunch, the scene is set to pursue other sexy activities – take a blanket.

Whether you are on a date in a classy restaurant, or are taking advantage of the creature comforts of home, take a look at some of these sexy ideas on how to combine food with gourmet love.

The dietary requirements for a long fulfilling life of great sex should incorporate varieties of fresh, nutritious vegetable and fruit including low fat proteins. Apart from the obvious health benefits of a balanced diet, meals rich in fruit and vegetables increase our energy levels and maintain our organs to peak levels.

* Fruits

Fruit is full of antioxidants and fiber and is soaked with aphrodisiac attributes. Fruit is refreshing, nutritious and is acknowledged in erotic literature in many countries. There are some 350 varieties of fruit across the world. Indulge in fruit often with a fresh admiration of its sexy attributes.

* Vegetables

Eggplant, carrots, cucumbers, asparagus and other male shaped vegetables have for many centuries been esteemed for their aphrodisiac outcomes. Whilst it’s difficult to imagine such foods as sexy these ancient pleasures animate our bodies with injections of vitamins and minerals.

Hand feed your date a luscious piece of mango, some juicy grapes and sip champagne whilst taking a warm bubble bath. Also try finger foods like olives and raw carrot sticks with dip.

Throw all of this great food in with a massage and hot oils and you will leave an impression to last a lifetime.

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The Dance of Romance

Sunday, June 28th, 2009

February is the month of love. It even includes an entire day that is set aside simply for the purpose of making grand gestures of romance and love. Valentine’s Day has been around for centuries.

One story of the origin of Valentine’s Day dates back to the 3rd century AD. Father Valentine, a Roman priest, defied what he believed was an unjust law of his day that forbade marriage and secretly married young lovers. For this he was sentenced to death, was martyred two centuries later and became one of the most popular saints of France and Italy.

LOVE

This thing called love receives more and more notice in most every area of life. Spiritual traditions have long claimed love to be at the core of healing and happiness. Philosophers have written of three types of love called eros, agape and philia. Medical research has produced scientific findings that love improves our health – it changes us on a cellular level, enhances our immune and cardiovascular systems, and increases our endorphins. A recent Oprah show highlighted a group of middle aged women who attributed their vitality and success to doing what they love. And the Law of Attraction that is rapidly gaining attention identifies love as a high energy emotion that transforms not only the “lover” but those near and far. As well it has the greatest attraction power of any energy.

ROMANCE

Since this is February I want to talk about the love celebrated in February, love that is distinguished by the “Big R word” – Romance. As I write this I am reminded that I don’t hear or read very much anymore about romance, except for a week or two around Valentine’s Day. I think something is amiss. Who doesn’t, if you are truly honest with yourself, desire more romance in your life?

Think of it. Romance is romance because of an array of delicious qualities such as genuine curiosity, adoring attention, expression of deep affection and passionate emotional involvement. Pretty good so far, don’t you think? There’s more. Romance is filled with charm and excitement. There is play, intense pleasure, profound interest and adoration. In romance one’s best self naturally shines forth, as well as the ability to see the magnificence in another. As I expect you know, there is a great deal of energy in romance – energy of vitality, passion and aliveness. Now I ask you again, “Who wouldn’t want more of that?” If you’re counting, count me in.

HOW TO HAVE MORE

The next question becomes “how?” Before answering this question, I want to remind you that any “great” relationship requires several things, one of which is romance. Now let’s get back to the question at hand, “What does it take to have more romance in my relationships?” First, let’s go back to the wisdom of Saint Valentine. He followed his heart not the dictates of something he didn’t believe in. So follow the desires of your heart, rather than the commands of “shoulds.” Second, choose to “become the Cupid in your own life.” Cupid, the Roman winged god of love, who shot his arrows of desire into unsuspecting persons has long been a symbol for Valentine’s Day. As Cupid, you get to shoot your arrows wherever you want. What relationship in your life would you like infused with more romance?

There is the obvious area of intimate relationships, whether with a long term partner or spouse, someone you are dating, or maybe even someone you are interested in but haven’t yet let them know. Is there still romance in your marriage or long term relationship? If yes, be grateful for it every day and keep doing what you’re doing that keeps romance alive. If not, let this month of love be the month to reclaim and re-ignite the playful, passionate aliveness of romance with some gesture that lets your partner know that you “see” and adore them. You can even do this with someone you are dating or begin with someone you are interested in. And there is always the long-stemmed red rose, ever the symbol of love and romance. Whatever you do, do it authentically – put your playful, thoughtful, passionate heart in it!

What about your business or career? Might it be time to start romancing your work or your business? Spend some time here with your full attention, appreciation and curiosity. What is one passionate action that would create a spark in this area of your life? Do that by Valentine’s Day. What is the particular charm or uniqueness of your work or business, even if dormant right now? Highlight that in your planning and next steps.

There are many relationships in your life that could be transformed by a little romance besides those I already mentioned – even those with money and time for starters. They all have one common denominator – You. Maybe now is the time to start some “serious” romancing of yourself? How much adoring attention, genuine curiosity and profound interest do you have for you? When was the last time you took time to “see” who you really are and what’s most important to you, or consciously gifted yourself with pleasure? Please take out your calendar and highlight an evening or an afternoon during the week of Valentine’s Day that you will treat yourself to a romantic date with “you” to do, be or have whatever strikes your romantic fantasy. And then, make it a habit.

THE THREE M’S OF ROMANCE

Romance requires that you take time, slow down and pay attention. And if romance strikes your fancy, remember that what you give your attention to grows stronger in your life.

I want to leave you with the three “M’s” of Romance – magic, mystery & miracles. These have to be present for real romance to occur. While science continually strives to “know” and find answers to or reasons for everything in life, I invite you to also allow for magic, mystery & miracles which provide much of the spice in life and the romance in love. Make sure to invite these into the Dance of Romance!

Enjoy this month, and beyond, of romance. And remember, You are a natural! You are brilliant! You are magnificent! Simply by being you. Let your light shine!

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Reggie Odom LICSW, CPCC, PCC is the founder of Inspired Works a Life Coach, inspirational speaker, and lecturer at Simmons College School of Social Work. She is considered a master teacher and unforgettable speaker. Reggie coaches professionals and practice-based entrepreneurs who want more joy and greater aliveness. http://www.reggieodom.com

Romance with Feng Shui

Friday, June 26th, 2009

As life gets more and more busy and as the responsibilities pile up on your plate, such as your career and family, it can be hard to pay attention to the smaller things that make life pleasant. One of the things that you may notice slipping is romance. How can you recapture romance and bring it back into your life and relationship? Understanding the simple philosophy of Feng Shui can improve your romantic life quickly and easily. By creating an every day life full of balance and harmony, you will find romance returning and improvement in your most important relationship, that with your lover or potential mate. With Feng Shui and romance, you must remember that you and what is important to yourself comes before anything else.

If your goal is to improve Feng Shui and romance, it is essential to understand what the love center or romance area of your home is. This romance center is to the far right corner of your house from the entrance, or it is the far right corner of every room that you enter. Focusing on this area of your home or in each room will increase your Feng Shui and romance. A way to improve the romance area is to create a feeling of comfort and relaxation. Do this with smart decorating and design choices, such as using pleasant colors and freeing the area of clutter. You want to have an inviting space that encourages intimacy. When you have a warm and welcoming space, you will find romance flowing more freely through your house and within your life.

An important concept to keep in mind when it comes to Feng Shui and romance is to rid your current life of any past romances. This is simple to do – remove any associations with these past relationships, including mementos and pictures. Once you have done this, you will find it easier to bring a new romance into your life. You may even consider replacing your bed and other bedroom furniture if it has connections with your old love. This change may be more drastic, but it will create an atmosphere that will welcome a new and successful romance.

Other items to remove from your bedroom, and important place in the home for Feng Shui and romance, are objects that are related to other activities that have nothing to do with love. These items include your television, exercise equipment, and personal computer. These everyday objects can be more appropriately placed in other areas of the house where they won’t affect the peaceful energies you are trying to create in the bedroom. If these items must remain in the bedroom, try to shield them from view by using a screen or curtain.

Feng Shui and romance in the bedroom can be enhanced by furniture arrangement. When it comes to bed placement, you want to make sure that it is situated as far from the entrance door as possible, although you still want the bed to be within sight from the doorway. A solid headboard is another physical feature that encourages Feng Shui and romance by representing the solidity of the relationship you are pursuing.

Another simple physical aspect to tackle when improving the Feng Shui and romance in your bedroom is to remove any unnecessary clutter. This also applies to any other area of the house, but when it comes to romance it is most essential to clear the bedroom of unsightly and nonfunctional clutter. This includes objects lying on the floor, or excessive decorations on top of your dresser. Clutter certainly does not encourage intimacy and will detract from the atmosphere of romance that you are trying to build with Feng Shui.

Another simple trick is to create the feeling within the bedroom that you are not single, even if you aren’t currently in a relationship. Do this by placing a second pillow on your bed and making extra room in your bathroom and closet. This is a good way to use Feng Shui and romance to encourage a potential new love. Also, be sure that the artwork within your bedroom is a reflection of romance by avoiding landscapes that appear lonely or photographs of a single person. Good artwork to include on the walls or on your dresser are pictures of things in pairs, such as two flowers or two animals. These simple measures will encourage romance and love to blossom within your bedroom and life.

A great Feng Shui and romance tip is to bring in living elements from the outdoors. Fresh flowers or an attractive plant are objects that can be incorporated into your home for encouraging a pleasant atmosphere and romance. Of course, do not keep around wilting or dried up flowers, as these will harm your levels of Feng Shui and romance within the home.

To encourage romance within your life, concentrate on the love that is already present, including your family and friends. Embracing this love will create a welcoming attitude for romantic love. Feng Shui and romance will flourish throughout your home and life if you keep a positive spirit that is open to the possibility of a new love.

Romance Writing in the Caribbean

Sunday, June 14th, 2009

Books are a continuing source of entertainment for those who are bored with television and sports as well as for those whose thrill in life is to snuggle down with a good book. There is no shortage on the type of books published each year and while one may debate which genre of book is more successful than the other. There is no doubt that Romance Novels make the bestseller lists every year and is subscribed to by millions of readers around the world. If you visit your local book store and check out the fiction section, you’ll definitely find romance novels, particularly books that are sold in themes such as Mills and Boon and Harlequin.

Billions of dollars are made each year in the industry and one may now wonder, what of the Caribbean Market. The fact is the Caribbean as a Market and a source of Romance Novels and Novelists is underexplored and in the case of published novelists is almost non-existent. This is so because the more established romance publishing houses do not necessarily publish Caribbean writers in that genre. What therefore are the options for Caribbean writers who want to write and publish Caribbean romance? There are obviously some decisions that have to be made before hand.

1. SHOULD I WRITE FICTION OR NON-FICTION

This is a big question for new writers. They are concerned about what is publishable and what they can earn the most revenue from. Most publishers agree that non-fiction books are better sellers particularly when they are contemporary in their approach and appeal to a wide audience.

There is however a big market for fiction works. It can become a source of big revenue if explored appropriately and sufficiently. The choice however is yours whether or not you want to go fiction or non-fiction.

Caribbean readers are more fiction oriented that non-fiction oriented. The fact that non-fiction is a better seller in the US does not necessarily hold true for the Caribbean with the exception of text-books. When Caribbean readers read for leisure they would rather read a good fiction than a book on motivation or self-help.

If your aim is for an intellectual audience then non-fiction is the way to go. However if your aim is for the general audience and that’s where the revenue is, then non-fiction is your ideal choice.

You might be wondering, what is the scope for general fiction writing in the Caribbean. The fact is Caribbean writers are excellent fiction writers. They just need to think outside the box and package and market their product appropriately.

2. SHOULD I WRITE ROMANCE OR GENERAL FICTION

The Success of the Mills and Boon / Harlequin Books which has millions of readers worldwide and make billions are per year is proof that there is a big market for romance novels.

The fact also that a percentage of that market are Caribbean readers makes it an even more exciting prospect for new Caribbean writers of romance.

Will a Caribbean audience gravitate towards Caribbean authors? There has always been a problem of acceptance for Caribbean writers and in particular where certain genres like romance are concerned. This is because previous writers were not following the trend in the business where readership preference is concerned. When a reader buys a romance novel, they are looking for exactly that, romance; and romance to them means a story with a fairy tale ending but with a plot that brings it as close to life as possible.

 The main readers of romance fiction are women and the majority or readers in the Caribbean are women, therefore the possibilities are endless for romance writing.

3. HOW DO I START BRAINSTORMING FOR IDEAS

 This is where the jitters start and many writers develop writers block. The best possible way around this is to what I call flooding the house. When water floods a house, everything within the reach of the water becomes saturated. The idea here is to saturate or flood your mind with ideas and you can do this in several ways:

Watch multiple romantic movies

Read multiple romance novels

Day Dream, allow your mind to wander to all kinds of possibilities. Make up stories in your head when you are lying down or relaxing.

Visit someplace romantic.

Listen to romantic music.

Quiz your friends about their romance lifestyle.

After you’ve brainstormed and come up with a general idea for your book, write possible synopsises and ask your close friends which one sounds like romance reading material.

Refine your idea then, Research, Research, Research! This can’t be emphasised enough. You need to research the role and functions of your chief characters, your location and every idea that will form a major part of your book. If you are creative enough and can come up with fictional places that will sound real then thumbs up to you. If you want your book to come across as realistic however, you need to research.

How do I research? The obvious choice in this information age is the internet, and of course there is the good old library book. There is a wealth of resources out there waiting to be explored. Just do your homework.

4. CHOOSING HERO AND HEROINE ARCHTYPE

So you have your idea and you’re thinking about your hero and heroine. This is where most new writers make the most mistakes. Most new writers have their particular favourite character prototype and they tend to think that people will love what they love. This is not always true. People essentially gravitate towards certain prototypes, and it is the strength and saleability of your characters that will make your book sell. So what are the saleable hero and heroine?

HEROS

Heroes that sell are ultimately strong, masculine, bold, rich and handsome.

Heroes that will attract a large percentage of the sale are your everyday good-looking guy, hot guys and best of all, bad buys (must not be too bad though and must never cheat on the heroine).

Heroes that will attract some percentage of the sales are you nice guys, gentle /tender guys and romantic guys. Must never be sisyish, though.

Heroes that will attract a small percentage of sales are your everyday blue colour job guys average looks, average pocket book but with a super personality and a great love for his girl.

Top Careers for the guys are successful entrepreneurs/business mogul, lawyers, bankers, Popular Sports Personality, Writers, politicians, Sheikhs, Princes, Kings, and General Royalty.

Careers should be internationally focused.

Top Race for your heroes Key Note: Make your heroes multicultural if you want to appeal to a wide audience. Since your writing for the Caribbean however, your heroes should largely represent the culture with a few deviations now and again.

HEROINES

Heroines that ultimately sell are girls that are super-beautiful, slim, long-legged, intelligent and sassy.

Your heroines should however reflect the culture since your audience is of that culture and will want to see women like themselves accomplishing the goals of the heroines and of course catching the coveted hero archetype.

Heroines that will definitely sell are the Cinderella prototypes and rag to riches type. Poor girl meats handsome rich guy who sweeps her off her feet.

Heroines that are good sellers are ladies that are successful career wise and are making their name felt in the professional field as well as in the market place.

Your heroine should never be a door mat or mousy. She can be plain but must have a personality that makes up for her lack.

She should have spirit but must not be too saucy or the plot will become difficult and repetitive.

5. THE PLOT

Your plot should be developed systematically.

The conflict should be plausible yet gripping.

Your audience should be carried away with your plot and get caught up in your conflict. It should make them want to take sides.

It should be suspenseful and make them want to turn the pages. The conflict however must not be too difficult or predictable. It should get the readers involved and play with their emotions.

Your book should make them laugh and cry which is essential for romances. It must be emotionally strong and gripping.

A writer that is able to take the reader on an emotional roller coaster and ends with the sated is a writer that will always sell. The key however when formulating your plot is to be creative.

Think out of the box and explore variety.

6. HOW DO I GET MY WORK PUBLISHED?

This is the question with the big question mark. How Difficult or easy it is to get my work published? Well I’ll tell you. If you are thinking of publishing the traditional route, then you’re in for some surprises.

First there are very few publishers out there if any that will accept romance from a Caribbean author.

If you wish to try your luck however the key is to sign up with an established agent. Very few mainstream publishers will take your work seriously if it doesn’t go through an established agent. You can search for agents online- but most if not all are located in America.

The other best option available to you and one that I recommend is independent publishing. How do I do this you might ask? Well it’s not very hard if you are prepared to do some work.

The first thing to do is to research your publishing options. Go online and research the small independent publishers and check out their guidelines. Be prepared however to get little if any editing help and to do all of the marketing.

Another option of independent publishing is to self-publish. There are several internet resources and websites where you can publish your book for a small fee if $500 US ($35,000 Ja.) is small money to you. There is also a website. www.lulu.com where you can publish your book for free, they will sell the books and give you eighty percent of the royalties. The good thing about this website is that you set the revenue that you want to earn. For example if you want 10 US dollars for each of your book and it cost 5 dollars to produce, Lulu will calculate 20% of that $10 and add it to the $10 plus the 5 dollars publishing cost, making it seventeen dollars. The book would sell for seventeen dollars and lulu would get two dollars while you get ten dollars. There are a lot of legal issues involved however such as taxation that you will have to check out. There is another option available to you and I will present it at the end of this presentation.

7. HOW DO I MARKET MY BOOK?

So you’ve written your book and ironed out the publishing process. How then do I get my book out to the readers? The big M is marketing. If you don’t market your books they’ll never be bought and read. So what strategy should I take? Well there are several:

You can go the predictable route of the media: TV, Radio, Print Media.

Word of Mouth or

You can set up your own book store, advertise and sell your books or better yet you can try the viral marketing approach. What is this approach you may ask?

The viral marketing approach or affiliate marketing or networking is the best method to get your books sold. Viral marketing is essentially getting your readers to market your books for you.

You can implore them to tell others how good your books are, or you an offer them an incentive to tell others about your book.

You can offer them a sizeable discount off the price of their next book if they refer a certain percentage of customers or if you want to make a real business out of it, you can offer them percentage money back on the books they buy if they refer a certain amount of customers.

8. HOW CAN I INFLUENCE THE SIZE OF MY REVENUE?

You can influence the size of your revenue by your marketing strategies and by going the independent route. When you choose the viral marketing route, your earning potential is limitless.

When you go the independent route, you basically set your own revenue and you will earn a big royalty compared to going with the more established publishers. Where you can earn 40 -50 % independently and 80 100% when you self ‘publish, when you use the traditional publishers, you will earn basically 8-10% royalty.

9. CAN I MAKE IT AS A SUCCESSFUL AUTHOR OF CARIBBEAN ROMANCE?

If you are wondering if you can make it as a successful writer, writing and selling romance, then the answer is yes.

The key to make it as a successful writer of romance is to be creative and write as much as possible and utilize the best marketing strategies as well as making certain that your book is above par.

If your book is first class and you market strategically, success will come your way.

10. HOW DO I WRITE AND PUBLISH MORE BOOKS?

Congratulations, you’ve completed your book, published it successfully and sold several copies. How do I keep the creative juices flowing so that I can write and publish more books?

The key is to stay current. Read what’s on the market and research what people are buying. Utilize the necessary processes mentioned earlier to brainstorm ideas and write down everything. If you can keep generating ideas, you will write more books and hence publish more books.

Hit your audience with an initial bestseller. The best way to keep your readers coming back for more is to produce that top selling book. The first book you put on the market should be a bomb. Make it good, make it last and your readers will come back for more. If you can grab their attention and hold it with that first book, you are guaranteed a second sale, and if you make a second sale that was equally good, then you’ve got it made, your name will sell books.

I am a writer by profession, I write books, articles, as well as abstracts. I also have a blogspot. My blogspot site is http://www.jamaicavibes.blogspot.com My Abstract wrting site is: http://www.shvoong.com/books/romance/1726651-christmas-june/ The site where you can read an by one of my books is http://www.lulu.com/content/1707378 – This is the site where you can get the book “Christmas In June” to buy.

The Harlequin Romance Legacy

Friday, June 12th, 2009

When people think romance novel, the first thought that pops up may be ‘Harlequin Romance’. And why not? Harlequin romance novels have been around for decades and continue to be the leader in series romance in the world. Harlequin romance novels have definitely withstood the test of time, and are still going as strong today as they were in the 1960′s.

Based in Toronto, Canada, Harlequin romance continues to publish over one hundred titles of serial romance every month. This publisher’s books are printed in twenty-five different languages around the world and are written by over one thousand talented romance writers from around the world as well. Harlequin doesn’t just offer office romance any more, however, but psychological thrillers, mysteries and historical romance genres as well. Harlequin remains one of Canada’s most successful book publishers, with sales of over one hundred and thirty million books a year. Harlequin Romance offices make their presence known around the world as well, with offices scattered from Toronto to New York to Tokyo and Warsaw. Because of the worldwide reputation of Harlequin Romance publishers, writers for Harlequin are able to be globally marketed, a bonus for those fortunate enough to be signed on with the huge publishing company.

Harlequin romance offers something for just about every reading taste, and is generally a tamer romance than some found on book market shelves. Still, there are different imprints within the Harlequin publishing house that attract different age groups and types of readers, and guidelines provided to authors wishing to submit their romance fiction manuscripts must follow Harlequin guidelines to the letter if they hope to be published with the illustrious company. Harlequin romance books are also still one of the more affordable offerings out there in the romance reader market, making them popular by price range and content both. Harlequin has just about every age bracket tagged, from young adults to thirty-somethings to the over the hill-ers. Every Harlequin romance book that rolls off the presses offers a compelling read and great characters.
Women’s fiction has long made it to the top of the New York Times bestseller listings, and Harlequin is often seen at the top of that list. Harlequin Romance books publish works in a variety of imprints, including Silhouette, MIRA, LUNA, Red Dress Ink, and HQN books, among others. With over two billion Harlequin romance imprints shipped to buyers all over the globe, Harlequin can do just about anything it wants, and it wants to continue to be a leader in women’s fiction for years to come.

The Harlequin Romance website is an exciting, reader friendly neighborhood that keeps fans of Harlequin up to date on the latest signings, releases and attractions to come in the near future. Since the 1960′s, Harlequin romance books have settled in their place on library and bookstore shelves, and nothing seems able to knock them off. It’s a given that the Harlequin romance is here to stay. Short, fast reads appeal to today’s always-on-the-go-women and Harlequin offers them exactly what they’re looking for.